Who We Are Dealing With

That’s really what she is. With GF, we are dealing with someone who not only twists, contorts, and exaggerates, but who also completely fabricates things out of thin air, and even goes to the extent of repeatedly manufacturing fake evidence. All this should be apparent as you read further. BTW, this sort of behavior is also a common attribute among those with a narcissistic personality disorders (more on this later). (You can watch GF blatantly lying about me hitting her in this video here.) A big reason so many people believe what she says is that she is so detailed and specific in what she says, and the allegations are so serious, that it is inconceivable to most people that someone would have the audacity to just make it up out of nothing, because the typical person (even someone who lies a lot) does not do that, because it can easily be disproved. And since even her lovely daughter is also saying the same thing, and the evildoer (me) is silent about it, who can be blamed for believing her, or thinking that at least some of it must be true? Well, the good thing for me is that a lot of it can be easily disproved, which is indeed what I’ll be doing.

Yes, and you know what? Even though it’s caused unimaginable hurt, I don’t blame her the slightest bit for doing so.

It’s hard for most people (especially those who’ve known her personally) to believe that a lovely girl such as her would say such things about me if there wasn’t at least some truth to it. But once you examine her allegations in detail (especially regarding sexual molestation) – and come to the conclusion that it’s complete B.S., you will wonder why she is also going along with the story, and (recently) even actively taking action against me, eg. filing a police report against me and trying to send me to jail.

Fortunately for me, as part of the divorce process in Hong Kong, a child custody evaluation report was conducted by a team of child psychologists. According to the report, FW is the victim of “Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)”:


“Its primary manifestation is the child's campaign of denigration against a parent, a campaign that has no justification. It results from the combination of a programming parent's indoctrination (brainwashing) and the child's own contributions to the vilification of the targeted parent.”

What normal person would make up such lies and force their innocent child to lie like that?

I believe, as have many others who have known her, that GF suffers from a personality disorder. Numerous professional psychologists who have come across GF (eg. Hong Kong marriage counsellor, neighbouring resident who witnessed GF’s rants and tirades in a group chat comprising our residential building residents) have suggested this to me and GF’s mother.

The latest confirmation came from the three psychologists who wrote the Child Psychologist Report, which said:
“…clinical observations both in-person and those occurring via email correspondence revealed Ms. Fang to exhibit many characteristics associated with Cluster B personality disorders (i.e. Narcissistic; Borderline; Histrionic) whereby individuals with these disorders often appear dramatic, emotional and/or erratic.” (page 13)

BTW, GF tells everyone that I bribed the three psychologists who wrote the report, even though she was the one who nominated them in the first place. She has written letters to the relevant Hong Kong psychologists association to formally complain about them.

Both GF’s mother and late brother also believe (or at least believed) that GF suffers from a mental illness. GF’s brother (according to himself) suffered from bi-polar, as do several other family members (according to him and GFM) so it may be that there is a genetic factor involved.

Having read up on these types of personality disorders online over many years, I have always felt that GF’s behaviour very closely resembles all three of those personality disorders, in varying degrees, but narcissistic and histrionic tend to resemble GF more. A recent article I came across regarding “malignant narcissists” seems to describe GF’s behaviour very accurately:

• “If the narcissist has power over the person, they will use it to hurt these individuals by … humiliating them or destroying their reputation.”


• “As things continue to devolve, their lies increase and are repeated endlessly… New lies will be created to try to prevent further erosion of their support and success... the lies will become audacious to the point of disbelief.”


• “The narcissist will imperil others by demanding that their supporters lie for them, create alibies, take the blame or even break the law.”


• “The manner in which the narcissist accomplishes this goal and lashing out to destroy others, is only limited by their creativity, depravity and the tools or weapons that are available to them. They will turn to the internet and social media, and potentially use other more traditional weapons, though putting them in others’ hands to be able to claim innocence after the fact.”

Many people find it hard to believe that GF’s own mother was at one point prepared to take the witness stand for me against GF.

Apart from me, no one knows GF’s dishonest, manipulative and coercive nature more than her own mother (GFM). GFM would often describe to others how GF is not only a serial liar, but also how she has been brainwashing FW and forcing her to give false evidence (back then against GFM too).

Here are some key quotes from GFM, taken from her Wechat conversations with me: