Allegations Regarding Z and Me

I’ll go through the allegations one by one, but in a nutshell, virtually all of them are complete lies fabricated out of thin air, as is frequently the case with her.

Marital Status Background

GF and I had had a rocky marriage since soon after marriage in 2001, and things were especially bad since 2013 after moving to China. By April 2014, we were already living separately (in separate bedrooms at first, then separate residences since December 2016).

After GF sued me regarding child support in April 2017 in Hangzhou, I hired a lawyer to help me defend this lawsuit, and decided to also (finally) start the process for a divorce, which I filed in June 2017. In August, the divorce petition was rejected by the Hangzhou courts claiming a lack of jurisdiction, so I filed for divorce in the Hong Kong courts the following month in September 2017. Up till today (May 2021), the divorce is still ongoing, with a large reason due to GF’s delaying tactics, and COVID (see FAQ – Why is the Divorce Taking So Long?).

“Z the Homewrecker”

GF’s main allegation is that Z is a homewrecker, having been my secret mistress as early as 2014 (now changed to 2010). If it were not for her, our marriage would not have been ruined, and we would still be an intact family. So the story goes.

GF first knew about Z when, two years into the divorce proceedings, I applied to the HK court in 2019 for an expedited divorce on account of Z’s pregnancy. Soon after, GF hired investigators to find out Z’s personal details (eg. ID, address, mobile number), and began sending harassing text messages about Z being a homewrecker. Messages by FW soon followed, accompanied with curses. In Z’s one and only response to FW, Z said:

“If I did wreck anyone’s family, please curse me to death – you’re welcomed to do so! If it’s your mother fabricating lies to falsely accuse others, then your curses will go to that person lying. If you have even a bit of conscience, you know the truth of the matter. I only knew your father after their relationship was broken down and after divorce proceedings started. This is the truth, and no amount of slander is going to change that!

The only reason I’m replying with this message is because I still treat you as a human being, and it is out of respect to your father’s love for you. I know you won’t believe me, but your father still loves you a lot, even though you have hurt him so much, and even tried to frame him.

This will be the first time and last time I reply. I hope you can act with conscience. Good/bad will eventually have its karma, and time will prove everything!”

“我如果破坏过任何人的家庭，请诅咒我死掉。不用客气！如果是你妈编造冤枉人，那么你诅咒的会是那个撒谎的人。如果你还有一点点良知，你是知道事情真相的。他们感情破裂离婚案开始之后，我才认识的你爸，这是事实，不管怎么污蔑都改变不了的！

我之所以回复这条消息是还把你当人，这也是尊重你爸对你的爱，你一定不相信，你爸还是非常爱你，虽然你那么伤害他，甚至设计陷害他。

这是我第一次也是最后一次回复，希望你做个有良知的人。善恶终有报，时间会证明一切！”

That message seemed to have infuriated GF (perhaps because it caused doubts in FW?), and soon after, GF produced ‘concrete evidence’ that Z and I did know each other as early as 2014, and Z was the liar who deserved to be cursed. Her evidence was Z’s Taobao delivery records from 2014, which seem to be real, judging from the delivery details that are shown.

The only problem is that GF, once again, did a sloppy job in her fabrications, which makes it obvious that she simply edited the real Taobao delivery records (presumably in Word or Excel format) to add in my details. If you look at the “firstTime” and “lastTime” entries of each of the other (ie. real) records, you will see that they only span minutes between the “firstTime” and “lastTime” entries. I’m guessing these refer to ONE particular delivery, with that delivery starting at the time stated under “firstTime”, and completing at the time under “lastTime”. However, for my particular record, my “firstTime” starts in May, and “lastTime” is in November – a span of nearly six months!

In the Wechat group chat which GF kept on adding me back into, I made a challenge to GF: Let’s (all three of us – GF, Z and I) go to the local police and give them authority to verify the truth, either through getting the delivery records directly from Taobao, checking phone records between Z and me, checking public transportation (especially planes and trains) records, to see when is the first evidence of contact between Z and me that can be found. In particular, let’s get Taobao to confirm whether the delivery records regarding me are true. The police can also look through my Wechat conversation records with Z, which will reveal when was the first time I even met her.

What I heard back from GF regarding my challenge was: crickets.

I am making this challenge again here (along with many other challenges) here: My Public Challenges to GF to Ascertain the Truth. Please encourage GF to take up my challenges.

BREAKING NEWS As at May 2021, GF is now further alleging that Z and I were together even as early as 2010 (while I was still living in Hong Kong).

It seems that GF’s private investigators have now dug up Z’s travel records, and saw that she travelled to Maldives in 2010, which is true. “Suspiciously” (to GF), this was just a few months after the sale of our flat in Hong Kong (when I “stole all her money”). Therefore the obvious conclusion must be: I paid for that trip (using the “stolen money”), and celebrated with Z in Maldives!

But wait, there’s more. Z’s daughter was born 9 months after that vacation – therefore, according to GF, the daughter is actually mine! It all makes sense now – no wonder I would be willing to marry someone like Z who is carrying “unwanted baggage”, because that “baggage” actually belongs to me!

And of course, she has evidence. According to GF, the daughter’s birth certificate is left BLANK where it’s supposed to be the father’s name! Now which real father would do that? Obviously, according to GF, Mr. Zhang knows the daughter is not his, and insisted not to have his name on it so as to avoid having to give that child inheritance.

But then, why is the daughter also surnamed Zhang then? Well, according to GF, that’s part of Mr. Zhang’s deal with me to act as my proxy, for which he is getting paid.

GF has even challenged me to do a DNA test to confirm that the daughter is not mine. Of course, it’s a challenge I gladly accept, with a counter challenge. See: Public Challenges to GF.

The allegations are getting so ridiculous now that I feel silly even responding to them. I’ll just say the following:

• - Why hasn’t GF posted for the world to see Z’s daughter’s birth certificate which is supposedly left blank for the father’s name? (Spoiler alert: it’s yet another made-up lie. I’ll link a scan of the actual birth certificate here.)


• - I’m guessing GF didn’t spend enough money to also get the travel records for Mr. Zhang, because it would be apparent to her that Mr. Zhang flew with Z on that trip to Maldives. In fact, they flew there with another couple. Care to see the pictures taken from that trip?

Now let’s look at the other allegations. You will notice one thing in common with all of them – absolutely no evidence, just words.

“When Z was a nurse, she was fired from the hospital for stealing medication.”

The only thing true about that is that Z was indeed a nurse, as disclosed in my Court application. Z is begging GF to please post ‘evidence’ of the firing and the theft on social media for all to see, or better yet, show it to court when Z sues her for defamation (coming), where the consequences would be much more severe if it were falsified. GF, when asked on the 19th Floor discussion forum, was not even able to say which hospital the supposed firing happened in. If necessary, Z would be willing to obtain written confirmation directly from the hospital concerning her resignation from the hospital.

“Z is a whore (literally a prostitute). And one major reason I preferred Z was that she was willing to engage in group sex and orgies with me, whereas GF wouldn’t.”

GF seems to have some preoccupation with accusing others of sexual-related stuff, eg. sexually molesting FW, sleeping with GF’s mother, hiring prostitutes (accusing me and Z’s ex), using sex toys (which she herself uses), and now group sex and orgies. I’m guessing it’s because it would sound the most scandalous and cause more people to pay attention.

It’s easy to disprove the ‘Z is literally a prostitute’ allegation because Z had continuous employment by ‘proper’ establishments all the way until her pregnancy in 2019, and her after-work activities can be attested to by Z’s ex-husband and daughter. As for group sex and orgies, apart from saying that her allegations are complete nonsense, and to ask her where is her evidence for claiming that, not sure what more I can say. Open to suggestions as to how I can disprove this.

“Z already had 3 abortions for me, and had been threatening suicide numerous times trying to force me to divorce GF. For this last pregnancy, she wouldn’t abort anymore and insisted on having the child (hence the birth of our son in 2020). I had wanted to break up with Z numerous times but pleaded with GF to give me more time to break up with Z, and I even wrote GF an “Assurance Letter” that I would return to her.”

And how exactly does GF know all the above “facts”? If through investigations, please show us the evidence, at least who told her all that (or how that person knew). If the source of all the above information is me, then did I tell GF in person, or communicate to her via phone? If the former, when exactly did we meet in order for me to even tell her? Any evidence of us meeting or arranging to meet? If by phone/messaging, please show any evidence of this – eg. screenshots, call logs, etc.

And please, oh please, show everyone that “Assurance Letter” that I’m supposed to have written!

“Since Z was still married at that time and only divorced in 2015, Z was also cheating on her then-husband (Mr. Zhang).”

Well, it would be true that Z was cheating if Z and I indeed had been together back in 2015, which is clearly bull manure (see above). Their divorce had nothing to do with infidelity, and today they remain good friends (something completely unfathomable and unbelievable to GF).

“The apartment that Z owns was bought by me (using the money I “stole” from GF, of course). The property was purchased in 2015, and although the title deed also has Mr. Zhang’s name on it, that’s only because he has been acting as my proxy, which I have been paying him to do.”

That’s the only conclusion that GF can come to, because in her mind it’s a FACT that I was the one who paid for the apartment, and I used money rightfully belonging to GF. So if the property deeds (which she has no doubt seen) have Mr. Zhang’s name on it, it can only be because I have am paying him to act as my illegal proxy. How nice of him, even though I stole his wife.

GF’s allegations were completely laughable to him, but unfortunately it was no longer a laughing matter when GF started to threaten and harass him, and even made a false report to his supervisor – a very serious matter as he is a public servant. See: GF’s Harassment of Others.

For me, all I can say is that the allegation is so easily disprovable by looking at the source of funds for the property, and especially since it can also be proven I didn’t even know Z, let alone Mr. Zhang back then.

“Apart from the Taobao delivery records, there’s more evidence I was with Z back in 2014. Back then, FW had opened a package containing sex toys, and one time, red panties not belonging to GF were found in the laundry. And one time GF even noticed a container box (empty) for a baby car seat.”

Re sex toys – only started hearing this allegation recently. It may be that FW did accidentally open a package containing sex toys, or found sex toys. If true, which do you think is more likely – those were sent by Z to our place so we could conveniently use them there when GF’s not home, or that they were actually GF’s, which she presumably would be embarrassed that FW discovered?

Re red panties – Firstly, why were they never shown to me, but only said a long time after it was supposed to have happened? Why weren’t pictures taken as evidence? Why was our home such an attractive place for me to bring back Z (or other girlfriend), so much so that we would have to avoid detection by the maid who is there for 5 hours daily in the daytime, and FW from after-school hours, and GF (mornings, and nights)?

Re Baby car seat box – This was in late 2016 after GF and FW had moved to a new apartment without me, and I stayed on for a 2-3 more weeks before moving myself. GF and FW had come back one day (presumably to collect remaining stuff) and saw an empty baby car seat box. Conclusion? Yep, I had a baby somewhere. So how does it fit in with the current story that Z had aborted for me 3 times previously? Did she abort very late term, and we had already bought the baby car seat in advance of birth? Or is that a baby car seat for Z’s daughter (sorry, now ‘MY’ daughter), who would be 5 years old by that time? Or could it simply be one of the empty boxes I had collected from the basement where they often had many discarded boxes, for the purposes of moving? Nah, that would be too simple to be believed.

Z went with me to Vancouver in 2016

Apparently, GF’s mother even saw plane tickets of me and someone else, who I had claimed to her to be my secretary (but which was supposedly Z). This accusation is fairly recent (since 2020/2021). Why was it not brought up before? If Z really did go, since GF now has Z’s travel records all the way back to 2010 or more, why hasn’t proof of that trip been discovered? Perhaps we’re going to see another Excel/Word document showing this travel record suddenly appear – let’s see if she takes more care when editing the document this time – in which case, would GF be willing to have someone examine Z’s passport to see whether there is a Canadian visa on it?

“In 2016, while GF and FW were in Hong Kong, she called me at 6am and heard a woman (who they now know must have been Z) on the other end.”

This story has several versions. The first version, alleged soon after the call, was that a woman had picked up the phone. According to FW, “yes, I heard a woman say ‘hello’”. I had sarcastically replied that it was good that this girlfriend could speak English, but I was still going to have to dump her for being so dumb as to answer a call on my phone with my wife’s name showing as the caller. Perhaps then thinking that the accusation was silly, by the time that story got to my parents, it was that FW heard a female voice in the background speaking, and then that person was immediately muffled by me.

Immediately the next day, I went to the management office to made sure they had CCTV footage of the lift on that night in question, and took a video of myself returning home that night (alone of course). After they returned, I asked them to please go check the CCTV footage themselves, to make sure that my video did indeed show the last time I had came back home that night. Their response: no point, because obviously that woman used the stairs to avoid detection. Well, obviously. GF wins.